a paper plane
have never really come to terms with Elective
Mutes or, if preferred, Selective Mutes.
Where do they really fit in the schema
of various diagnostic categories, or more precisely, in what way can we
understand them? In terms of Freudian,
Jungian or Kleinian theories, or Erikson’s or Mahler’s more child friendly
models, or modern neuro-transmitter bio-physiology?
Yet we have all seen them in our career
as psychiatrists. Because we are
essentially rendered ineffectual in our therapeutic approach, they are often
treated as a novelty and one’s hope is that either the family come to terms
with what might best be described as a quirk of nature, for which little can be
done, or the patient grows older and never really commits anything that requires
hospitalisation.
I can also see how in time, guideline
controlled health practice will allow little room for anyone practising child psychiatry
to be spending any time at all with these cases.
We do not get to see them that often
and I can remember three cases in my three decades of work with children, or at
least, three that stuck in my mind.
To put it simply, Elective Mutes (a
term I prefer as it gives a hint of election by the patient) are not true mutes as they speak at home, often to only one
person such as the mother, but not to anyone else, especially at school. At
some point in the history of child psychiatry someone changed the diagnosis to
Selective Mute and so it was included here in case anyone thought I was talking
about a non-existent condition.
A Chinese
Patient
An exceptional consultation was
requested by a psychiatrist friend of mine in a nearby town. He had a patient,
a Chinese mother who spoke little English and she was very concerned about her
son. Exceptional consultations are allowed within the NHS when the need arises
to call on the expertise of another consultant not working for the authority,
for a specified fee. In this case the expertise was not clinical but language;
although by asking a child psychiatrist instead of just an interpreter he was
killing two birds with one stone.
The family ran a Chinese Fish and Chips
shop and lived in the flat above the shop in the older part of the town. There
was an older daughter and a young baby. The referred patient had turned five
and just started school. Five is generally the age when these patients get
referred. I was offered a seat by a small table in a corner near the rear
window of the flat. Some steps led from
the shop to this sitting area at the back of the flat. Whiffs of frying oil
crept through the tightly shut windows. On the wall was the traditional
Buddhist shrine with remnants of the previous day’s incense sticks. I was not
entirely sure if I preferred the smell of incense stick or frying oil. On the bench across from me, the older girl
was diligently doing her homework. My patient was playing with his new looking
power ranger, possibly a bribe so that he would stay and see the doctor. The
baby was in mother’s arms sound asleep. She apologised that her husband was
busy getting ready for the shop to open in about an hour’s time.
This was fairly typical of Chinese
families in similar take away businesses. They probably made a reasonable
living but some of the money might have to be sent to their folks back in their
home village. Décor at home would be basic although most would have the latest
model of television set and video recorder.
Mother was relieved that I could speak
fluent Cantonese, but her daughter would barge in now and again in perfect
English about her brother.
The boy conversed at home with both
parents and sister, although I could sense that with his sister’s talkativeness
he would hardly stand a chance.
Both my patient and his sister spoke
fluent Cantonese with the parents and mother did not notice anything unusual
about the boy until the school complained.
To prove that he could really speak,
mother said that they had a video recording made during the last Chinese New
Year when they took the family to Hong Kong.
He was even speaking to other relatives in Hong Kong.
Dutifully the daughter put the tape into the video machine and played the
video. There were also bits of English spoken between him and his sister.
What worried mother was that after
father received the complaint letter from school, he stood the boy in front of
him with a cane and said that he would cane him if he did not talk to his
teacher the next day. The boy did not wait and put out his hands.
His father did not hit him. He only
wanted to threaten him.
A week went by and another letter came.
The boy was again summoned before father. His sister urged him in English not
to be afraid of his teachers and to speak in school or he would be punished.
This time father held a clever and threatened to chop his hands off if he were
to receive another letter from school.
The boy put out his hands again.
Suddenly I was extremely worried for
the parents. The town they lived in was hot on Child Abuse at the time. Although I had no fear at all that these
parents would chop their son’s hands off, some over vigilant social workers
might take it upon themselves to act. I
took it upon myself to advise the parents that any such threat might bring the
wrath of Social Service upon them.
Chinese families and perhaps oriental
ones in general want little to do with authorities. The parents had in fact
resisted the involvement of Educational Psychologists and I was only let in
because I was Chinese.
Now, mother was worried.
“Would they take him away?”
She asked if they should send him to a
private school or do something else. They just did not want to lose him. She
assured me that her husband loved him as he was his first son but he just did
not want to upset school in any way.
I suggested that it was probably too
early to act, as the boy might soon decide to speak. It would be important to check if he was
making any progress, but on the video recording, he was reading with his
sister. If it became necessary for them to see a Psychologist I would help to
facilitate. I suggested that three months might be a good time for me to see
him again.
Two month later, I received a call from
my psychiatrist friend. No follow up appointment would be necessary.
“Did the boy speak?”
I was anxious to know.
“No, they sent him back to Hong Kong to live with the grandparents. They said he was doing well at school there.”
How stupid of me! I should have guessed from the tape and from
what I know of the Eastern way: avoid authorities more than you need to avoid tigers.
And who is to say that the boy would
have done better if he had continued here.
Who knows?
Norman
Paper darts or planes were one of my
favourite pastimes as a child and from a plain piece of paper I am able to
build one that will be able to do nice aerobatics in a small room by minute
tweaking of the under-wing rudder. Now
and again with the appropriate child I might resort to building one to start a
therapeutic relationship and most times it worked like a treat.
So it was after weeks of struggling
with an elective mute that I decided to try my luck.
Little Norman was a handsome looking boy of six and
never spoke to anyone outside of the house. He would speak to his parents
indoors but not out. Of all other relatives he would only speak to his maternal
grandparents who lived nearby but only in his own home, never theirs.
He had made reasonable progress at
school as mother was an infant teacher before she had him and regularly checked
his progress.
He just would not speak to anyone else.
He looked like an autistic child and
certainly had the tendency to avoid eye contacts. However he acquired his
language at the usual times and mother had a normal uneventful birth. Father
was an accountant working in London,
of the quiet type as mother put it. I only met him once on their first
appointment.
Norman
was their pride and joy, being the first grandchild on both sides of the
family. The paternal grandparents lived
in the West Country and did not see Norman
too often.
So, there we were, one of my first mutes
since I became a consultant. Despite all
recorded difficulties with Elective Mutes, I decided to try my luck with some
therapy sessions.
The boy got quite used to me after a
while. He would draw, write and often
look at all the story books I had around. He would play with Lego, assemble and
dissemble the train set but he just would not speak.
I was young then and had the mistaken
belief that getting him to speak with me would be counted as some sort of cure.
This has not been written up anywhere and we had little knowledge of the long
term outcome of these cases.
I was determined, determined to get him
to speak, at least with me.
Paper plane.
I hit on the idea of my faithful
friend.
I built one, then two. He had one and I
had the other. They flew, made beautiful loops, did aerobatics and he was
thoroughly enjoying it.
I sensed that he wanted to take them
home to show his dad.
“You will have to ask me for them.”
How nasty could I be?
He turned solemn, then pale, then red.
I was beginning to hate myself. How
could I? He was my little friend. We could have gone on for months playing.
“Please may I have the planes?”
I was shocked, so was mum when she
heard what happened. I was not pleased with myself. I had tricked the little
boy to give up his principles, whatever they were.
Mum on the other hand thought I was brilliant.
Simone
Little Simone, aged five, had a
beautiful crop of blonde hair with the cute little face and blue eyes to go
with it. I was wondering if it was a genetic thing. Good looks and mutism. She
had a brother four years older. He was smart, too smart sometimes as he always
seemed to know what she wanted and would speak up for her.
Simone did not even talk to her father
or brother. Only to her mother and only when no one else was around.
Her brother was doing extremely well at
school and they were thinking of sending him to a private school.
Father was a pilot and was hardly home
which might explain in part why Simone did not speak to him. At least that was
how mother tried to help me understand. Also, her brother might be too old for
her, especially as he had his own friends and she was a girl. “Boys of that age
don’t talk to girls” was the other lesson I received.
I hardly needed to do any talking from
the first time I met mother as she would ask the questions and answer
them. Most were sensible answers and I
was sure many child psychiatrists would not have such a deep understanding of
children.
No, mother was not worried, as she
could check on Simone’s progress.
At the time, we had just moved to our
new clinic and we had a video link and recording facility in our playroom.
What an opportunity to test out our
equipment.
So we had Simone set in a routine of
spending some time first with mother and then one of my female junior doctors
would join us in the second half of the session to talk to mother.
At first Simone would stay quiet
throughout.
After about three months, the
breakthrough came. Simone started talking to mother when she was alone playing
with her. When the door handle turned, she switched off. This continued for
some sessions. Simone by now would be reading story books with mother and she
was an avid and good reader for her age.
One day, watching the proceedings, I
hit on an idea, a very naughty idea.
What if my junior doctor played back
the video recording to her? It might disclose the secret. We knew she could
speak.
As if by magic, it worked. The rest you
might have guessed.
Was it the right thing to do? Did
making an elective mute speak represent a cure? I do
not know.
On
one cold April morning in 2007 in Virginia
a former mute went on a shooting rampage and many innocent lives were lost.
